{"id":42487,"date":"2013-12-04T08:02:17","date_gmt":"2013-12-04T14:02:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.austincnm.com\/?p=42487"},"modified":"2013-12-04T08:02:17","modified_gmt":"2013-12-04T14:02:17","slug":"getting-back-box-reflective-guide-confession","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/index.php\/2013\/12\/getting-back-box-reflective-guide-confession\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Back Into the Box; a Reflective Guide to Confession"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I first came into the Church, the Sacrament that stumped me the most was Confession, the Sacrament of Reconciliation. It wasn\u2019t the idea of it. It wasn\u2019t the theology of it. It wasn\u2019t even claustrophobia. It was learning how to contain myself into this little ritual. This was difficult for me because of my lack of experience and also because I couldn\u2019t seem to narrow down what it was right to confess. My confession should not be a wild arrow that misses the Heart of Jesus or a list that makes Him sleepy. I want to hit the bull\u2019s eye and sink the arrow deep. I had a hard time with my archery for a long time and I think for Jesus, my attempts to participate in this sacrament made me a crazy moving target hard for Him to hit.<\/p>\n

I had some memorable reactions from priests to my confessions that puzzled me: everything from, \u201cThat\u2019s not really a sin.\u201d to \u201cYou sound like a monophysite,\u201d to simply bursting out laughing.
\nI needed to find a way to contain myself in the narrow field of what I was supposed to actually do with Confession in order to let it be the conscious encounter with Jesus that it should be. I realized going to Confession was not just about me and my feelings. It was something I did for Jesus and for the good of the Church as well. I really needed to find a way to hit the mark and hit it in a way that was more transformative and open to grace. <\/p>\n

The power of God is not limited to our personal perceptions of course. But the Sacrament isn\u2019t \u201cmagic\u201d either. It\u2019s a real encounter with Jesus and His merciful love. I need to participate as fully as I can.<\/p>\n

“Art…consists of drawing the line somewhere.\u201d (G.K. Chesterton) I needed a way draw some lines, within the ones given to us by the Church, and still have my confession come from the heart. <\/p>\n

Over the years I developed a way of ordering my examination of conscience and my confession into a more meaningful and sensible form that fits into the confessional “box” better than the disorganized, emotionally based way I had been doing it before. \"Confessional<\/a><\/p>\n

First I ask Jesus what He<\/em> wants me to Confess. It doesn\u2019t have to be about everything in the world down to spilling my milk (not a sin by the way.) It could be about one particular situation God wants to work with me in. I try to be receptive as I think about my life. I pray to be guided and trust that I will be. <\/p>\n

I write down the basic issues that come up. Then I look in the Scriptures and\/or the Catechism to see what the Word and the Magisterium have to say about these things. I reflect on what I have read- especially a word or phrase that really stands out to me. A lot of the time I can see more deeply into a situation and where I am at fault, what graces and virtues I need to pray and work for, and where I need to make amends in my relationships, when I do this. I make a brief outline of what I have found out. Then I make a prayer about each sin I need to confess. After all, the priest is in <\/em>persona Christi <\/em> and this is a holy sacrament so why not make my whole confession a prayer? It helps me a lot to do it this way. I think I am more guided and I am more likely to find meaning and grace when I take my time to do this in a reflective way, making use of the Bible and the Catechism along with receptive prayer. Also this way I don’t lose track of what I am doing when I am there (as I often used to do.) \"IMG_0589\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take an example of a sin I have often committed as a parent, though I\u2019m sure none of you ever do; freaking out and yelling at my kids. The prayer I write out for that may look like this: <\/p>\n

\u201cMy God, in Your Word, You have said \u201cDo not be harsh with your children but admonish them in the Lord.\u201d For all the times I have lost my temper with my children lately, I am sorry. Please forgive me and help me to be as gentle with them as You are with me. \u201c
\n<\/em>
\nOr this: \u201cLord, You have taught through Your Church that parents are the primary educators of their children. For the times I have failed to teach my daughters patience and gentleness by modeling these things for them, the times I gave them a bad example instead by losing my temper and being harsh, I am sorry. Please forgive me. Grant to me the grace of patience and help me to do better.\u201d
\n<\/em><\/p>\n

When I am in the confessional, I tell the priest before I begin that I have written out my confession this way. I have never had any one of them mind about that. Otherwise, of course, The Sacrament of Reconciliation proceeds as usual. <\/p>\n

I do think a personal, devotional act adds to the experience, (as long as it doesn’t detract from it.) It can bring us closer to love, and give us a sense of the fact that we are entering into something sacred. My friend, Shawna, takes her shoes off and kneels when she begins Confession. I think that is beautiful. Things like that remind us of our devotion, give us the sense of the fact that we are entering into the sacred, and help us to be humble in God\u2019s presence. <\/p>\n

Like my friend, Shawna, I like to kneel too- not during my confession but during absolution. Why I don\u2019t take my shoes off the way she does I will leave to your imagination. <\/p>\n

There is a saying, \u201cThe narrower the field the deeper the dig.\u201d That has been true for me in Confession. I don\u2019t need to dig all over the place; just enough in the right spot, in the right way, to find that Pearl of Great Price that I am willing to sell everything else to possess. <\/p>\n

\"Advent\"<\/a> Advent Challenge: During this Advent season, make a reflective examination of conscience and go to Confession! Try making your confession a prayer. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When I first came into the Church, the Sacrament that stumped me the most was Confession, the Sacrament of Reconciliation. It wasn\u2019t the idea of it. It wasn\u2019t the theology of it. It wasn\u2019t even claustrophobia. It was learning how to contain myself into this little ritual. This was difficult for me because of my… [Read More]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":155,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"{title}\n\n{excerpt}\n\n{url}","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[4,90],"tags":[55,476,50],"class_list":["post-42487","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-blog","category-faith-blog","tag-catholic-2","tag-confession","tag-faith","entry","has-post-thumbnail"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t