{"id":319211,"date":"2016-11-08T09:00:59","date_gmt":"2016-11-08T15:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/?p=319211"},"modified":"2016-12-05T22:03:08","modified_gmt":"2016-12-06T04:03:08","slug":"review-101-tips-for-marrying-the-right-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/index.php\/2016\/11\/review-101-tips-for-marrying-the-right-person\/","title":{"rendered":"Pocket-Sized Pointers for Picking a Partner (Review: “101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person”)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today’s review is of a short book, so this will be a short review. Following on the heels of their successful book 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage<\/em><\/a>, Jennifer Roback Morse and Betsy Kerekes have released a guide for getting to<\/em> marriage in the first place. This new title basically begged me to read it: 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person: Helping Singles Find Each Other, Contemplate Marriage, and Say I Do<\/em><\/a>. Yes, please! In this tiny tome, I found much to support my previous thoughts about important premarital decisions and a few new points to ponder.<\/p>\n

As the authors note, it’s much easier to have a happy marriage when you’ve married the right person in the first place. Thus, most of the book is given over to how to improve yourself as a single, how to date wisely, and what to look for when the possibility of marriage pops over the horizon. They’re definitely on the right track there. I have never been married, but I used to do marriage prep (for other couples, not for myself), and I have a personal interest in improving the way marriages begin. Starting off on the right foot sounds like a good way to set yourself up for marital bliss.<\/p>\n

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Photo by Billy Quach<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Some standout tips are:<\/p>\n

\n 16. When the relationship begins to get serious, seek the opinion of an objective third party, with emphasis on “objective.”\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

They suggest parents or siblings. When you marry someone, you marry their family, too, and family will still be with you even if the romance ends.<\/p>\n

\n 25. Do not date someone you wouldn’t consider marrying.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This wanders into an unclear zone. Similar advice has caused many people to not date at all, insisting that they have to know someone well enough to know they’d marry them before<\/em> they will go on a date. How, then, do you get to know someone? Most people are worth one date, but I agree that you shouldn’t stay in a relationship unless you see it going somewhere.<\/p>\n

\n 45. Does the other person care enough to help cheer me up when I’m down or commiserate with me when I’m upset\u2014whichever I prefer?\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This is crucial. I am a commiserator. Pollyannas drive me crazy. I know they mean well, but it’s quite difficult to already be feeling down about whatever my stressor is and then also be upset about my partner’s failed attempt at stress relief!<\/p>\n

I also appreciated the final section, which focuses on last-minute questions to ask before you say “I do.” Engagements can<\/em> be called off, but most aren’t. If you can help it, do the hard work before she’s wearing a ring. If that day has long passed, don’t be afraid to reconsider whether you feel peace about your decision.<\/p>\n

I recommend this book especially to ladies who are partnered with men who just won’t read a full-length book. In just over 101 pages, Roback Morse and Kerekes offer excellent food for discussion. Take it one bite at a time. Use their punchy advice to establish the foundation for a lasting, happy marriage.<\/p>\n

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I received a free copy of 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person: Helping Singles Find Each Other, Contemplate Marriage, and Say I Do<\/em> from Ave Maria Press<\/a> in exchange for my honest review. Many thanks for their generosity!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Today’s review is of a short book, so this will be a short review. Following on the heels of their successful book 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage, Jennifer Roback Morse and Betsy Kerekes have released a guide for getting to marriage in the first place. 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