{"id":26605,"date":"2012-11-15T12:46:14","date_gmt":"2012-11-15T18:46:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.austincnm.com\/?p=26605"},"modified":"2012-11-15T14:58:41","modified_gmt":"2012-11-15T20:58:41","slug":"catholic-frenemies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/index.php\/2012\/11\/catholic-frenemies\/","title":{"rendered":"Catholic Frenemies"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Towards both God and others, at times we\u2019re like Peter, at other times like Paul, sometimes we\u2019re like John and even other times we\u2019re like (doubting) Thomas. But what worries me the most is when we\u2019re like Judas. Because when we\u2019re like Judas, we often act as a frenemy.<\/p>\n<p>Frenemies. We all have them. Sometimes, we are one.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s a frenemy? A frenemy (pronounced fren-uh-mee) is a blend of friend and enemy. It is a person or a group of people that are friendly towards someone because connections with that someone brings a benefit or fulfill a need, but that person or group of people also have feelings of resentment or rivalry towards that same person. Another, more common dictionary definition is someone who pretends to be a friend but is actually an enemy.*<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve always thought that Judas got a bad reputation. No, he definitely wasn\u2019t perfect, but I don\u2019t think that he intended to be a frenemy to Christ all the time either. And in the end, he did want to seek forgiveness from Christ for how he treated him, he just didn\u2019t quite know how. Yet Judas he did have traits that are pretty common in frenemies that are carried throughout the New Testament when we hear Judas\u2019 name:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Judas believed he knew better than others how things were to be done and sought to get his way. <em>(He turned Jesus into the authorities to try and get him to be someone he wasn\u2019t called to be in the redemption of mankind).&nbsp;<\/em><\/li>\n<li>Judas acted selfishly. <em>(He turned Jesus in not just to try to get Jesus to act differently, but for money).<\/em><\/li>\n<li>Judas was competitive and possessive. <em>(The Apostles were like family and definitely didn\u2019t always get along, but Judas put others down- <a href=\"http:\/\/www.usccb.org\/bible\/john\/12\">John 12:4-6<\/a>)&nbsp;<\/em><\/li>\n<li>Judas had a sense of extreme self-importance. <em>(This is reflected in many of his actions mentioned here, but especially believing he knew better than Christ).<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Are we a Catholic frenemy like Judas? Is it intentional, or unintentional? We know that living out our Catholic faith is not easy, and we all have bad days. But it\u2019s when we catch ourselves being a frenemy to someone, or encounter someone being a frenemy to us, we can have some major problems.<\/p>\n<p>As St. Josemaria Escriva said, \u201cThere are many people around you, and you have no right to be an obstacle to their spiritual good, to their eternal happiness. You are under an obligation to be a saint. You must not let God down for having chosen you. Neither must you let those around you down: they expect so much from your Christian life.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know if many people intend to be frenemies. I know that if I am to others, it&#8217;s certainly not intentional. But I do think that often people end up as frenemies because they are harboring anger, resentment, un-forgiveness, carrying around sin or something else with their heart that makes acting with love and charity towards another difficult.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think?<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; &#8211; &#8211; &#8211; &#8211; &#8211;<br \/>\n*Definitions are a compilation of definitions from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.urbandictionary.com\/define.php?term=frenemy\">www.urbandictionary.com<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/dictionary.reference.com\/browse\/frenemy?s=t\">www.dictionary.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Towards both God and others, at times we\u2019re like Peter, at other times like Paul, sometimes we\u2019re like John and even other times we\u2019re like (doubting) Thomas. But what worries me the most is when we\u2019re like Judas. Because when we\u2019re like Judas, we often act as a frenemy. Frenemies. We all have them. Sometimes,&#8230;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/index.php\/2012\/11\/catholic-frenemies\/\">[Read&nbsp;More]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[90],"tags":[144,55,970,206,1172,1173,1171,168,1174,193,1175],"class_list":{"0":"post-26605","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-faith-blog","7":"tag-anger","8":"tag-catholic-2","9":"tag-catholic-faith","10":"tag-charity","11":"tag-enemy","12":"tag-frenemy","13":"tag-friend","14":"tag-holiness","15":"tag-judas","16":"tag-love","17":"tag-resentment","18":"entry","19":"has-post-thumbnail"},"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1572,"url":"https:\/\/atxcatholic.com\/index.php\/2011\/05\/why-does-the-media-not-support-the-church\/","url_meta":{"origin":26605,"position":0},"title":"Why Does the Media Not Support the Church?","author":"Crist\u00f3bal Almanza Herrera","date":"May 9, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"It\u2019s impossible not to have a bias. 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